I'm Samantha, an integrative counsellor and EMDR therapist with a particular interest in relational trauma.

Relational trauma can develop when the relationships that should have provided safety, love and connection were also a source of criticism, rejection, control, unpredictability or emotional hurt.

It doesn't always come from one significant event. Sometimes it's the repeated experience of having to adapt who you are to maintain connection with the people around you.

As an adult, this can show up as people pleasing, difficulty setting boundaries, guilt, self-doubt, fear of rejection or feeling responsible for other people's emotions.

Recovery is about more than understanding what happened. It's about beginning to recognise what belongs to you and what you've learned to carry for others.

Therapy can help you develop trust in yourself, create healthier boundaries, understand your emotional responses and begin to make choices based on what you need — rather than fear, guilt or obligation.

You don't have to stop caring about others to start caring for yourself.